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  • Competence. I guess active-duty people would find it pretty that I'm using 'military' and 'competence' in the same sentence, but bear with me. Being active duty involves having your shit sorted out to a certain extent. Because if you are incapable of showing up somewhere you've promised you'll be multiple times, or if you refuse to answer your phone and act as if the concept of answering a phone is just baffling to you, you will be weeded out. And so when you only hang around active duty people and their families, you start to assume a certain level of "I have my shit together" from people and then you start to assume that people are just like that. And then you are out and you start to realize just how many people your age do not have their shit sorted out to even the slightest extent.

  • Some level of understanding? This one applies to me in the sense that my husband now has a job that also takes him away a lot and sometimes I can't contact him much. I am used to that, but I used to live in an area where other people were also used to that. If you stepped outside your house, the average spouse you met would also have been dealing with this for years. Now I don't have that. One acquaintance here had her husband go on his first ever business trip and kept messaging me saying "I miss him sooo much OMG I don't know how you DOOO it" and I'm like OMG he's away for one week, really?!

  • Camaraderie. I never got along with most military wives because I am an antisocial person who hates everyone, but at least there was one thing connecting us most of the time. Now I feel like I don't have much connecting me with the average person I meet, not even nationality. That might just be me though because of the hating everyone thing.

  • Cute uniforms

  • Shopping at Camp Pendleton



That's about it.

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Date: 2014-06-14 05:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] zipotle.livejournal.com
I agree with everything but the Camp Pendleton thing, but that's just because I've never been there.

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Date: 2014-06-15 01:56 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] anastasis.livejournal.com
Glad I am not alone!

Pendleton has a gigannnntic exchange. I liked doing clothes shopping there because it was all in one place and I hate shopping. Here I have to walk around a mall if I want to buy anything, so I'm just letting my clothes gradually turn to rags.

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Date: 2014-06-15 12:26 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] crazybreedaisy.livejournal.com
IA. Being surrounded by people who very much do not have their shit together is infuriating. Also, while Tricare was a bag of dicks and it was so hard to get anything you needed sometimes, it was the devil I knew.

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Date: 2014-06-15 02:00 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] anastasis.livejournal.com
Yeah I'm getting treatment for stuff that Tricare didn't cover, so I don't miss it. But on the other hand, it was nice when I was not going to the mailbox and getting random $500 bills for shit that insurance decided not to pay this week.

As for people and their shit... my god. It seems to be extra bad here because this is a post-industrial town with not many good jobs, and so most of the young people with their shit together already left? Or maybe I'm kidding myself and the WHOLE WORLD is really like this?

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Date: 2014-06-15 03:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] crazybreedaisy.livejournal.com
the whole world is like this. it is boggling.

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Date: 2014-06-16 02:28 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] anastasis.livejournal.com
noooooo

i refuse to believe that

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Date: 2014-06-18 07:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] gunslnger.livejournal.com
Yeah, the whole world is like that. Especially annoying is that people can agree to meet up and then just never show and never explain themselves later, they just shrug like "why are you even bothering to ask?" And these aren't kids, it's everyone.

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Date: 2014-06-19 01:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] anastasis.livejournal.com
:(

Part of what inspired this post: we were having one of my husband's relatives over for dinner. It is 20 minutes before they are meant to arrive and he is already cooking and we have bought and prepared all the food and so forth. She calls up and says she can't make it because she and her husband are fighting. Ummm you couldn't have called slightly earlier? Or you know, just stop fighting and pretend to get along for an hour in company, like every other married couple has done in the history of ever?

It worked out okay (we invited other people over and gave them food) but COME ON.

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Date: 2014-06-15 02:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] anastasis.livejournal.com
Also I totally read your first sentence as "Individual Augmentee" which proves that I AM STILL NOT FREE NOT REALLY

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Date: 2014-06-15 06:56 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pedx.livejournal.com
Competence is probably the single most attractive trait I can think of in any human being, ever.

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